Oh, and two new favorite songs. At the bottom ——>>>>
This morning I was lucky to wake up to one of my favorite scenes: a thin blanket of white glistening atop every surface as far as I could see. Smoky, colorless pearls of clouds covered the sky, simulating life within a snow globe. No one had shaken it yet. A pristine world shimmered untouched, au naturale. The flakes were still falling, and as the morning went on they would oscillate from quarter-sized to barely visible. I love snow so much. And miss it! We barely received any this year, so this felt like a nice treat, despite it hardly reaching an inch. It’d be gone by late afternoon, but still it carried with it the sentiment of an anonymous gift.
I drank my coffee and watched as River hippity hopped around on this fluffy new texture, wholly excited simply by the feeling of something new under her feet. I imagine most dogs are this way, and the ones who aren’t are usually cats. Most people around here would say “It’s about time!” as it’s been an incredibly dry and mild winter Our first *real* snow arriving February 20th!? Everything in due time, I suppose. Else we are slowly succumbing to the unnatural phenomenon of everything warming until none of this is habitable anymore. By that time maybe, Mars will step in. If not, we self destruct, which Tolle describes as “not really a problem at all.” We’re all going to go, one way or another.
I am weaker than I’d like to be—which is not weak at all, of course. Even though I had inched my way to improvement over the last week, for some reason I woke up on Tuesday to the physical news that my muscles had turned to lead over night. Life is full of such creative surprises! My upper body and arms in particular strain to do very basic things, like brush my teeth—and that’s a great way to feel even more pathetic than you look. But I know the drill: no matter how many tasks remain written, undone, on the list that I’d like to start and even, gasp, finish in the near future, will all just have to wait. And I’ll just have to wait until my strength returns, which seems to happen inevitably in time, for no good reason at all— Just the same as how it arrived.
The kind part of laundry, dishes, the spice cabinet I’ve really been wanting to organize, is that they’re all very patient, so lucky me! In reality, when I can’t do these tasks it means someone else will have to, and I can’t tell you how bothersome that is. Not bothersome, but something more adjacent to guilt. I want to be a clean and organized and helpful person, and nothing disrupts that possibility more than a body reliable purely for its unreliability. Infuriating! But those are the rules dear. You can rest, waiting, either angry or surrendered; *that* choice is always mine.
The only real way to *wait* for some level of wellness to return with any sanity is to embrace to the present. Continually try to re-renter and stay in the now, reminding myself everything is actually fine. I *wish* it were different, yes. But it’s not life and death here. It’s mostly tolerance, humility, and patience. I have to remember (again and again on days like this) that all things of priority are operating, and all secondary things will be tended to when I’m able. The pile of laundry waiting to be folded has turned into a sculpture like heap in the hallway. Interesting color combinations and whatnot. More life surprises!
This thing called surrender comes highly into play throughout times like this, but it must always be discerned and separated from the idea of giving up. Yes, the two are mutually exclusive,as one implies befriending the present moment and accepting what’s possible and not; reality as is. The other has to do more solely with will power and throwing in the towel. As anyone and everyone with ME/CFS knows, if you could will-power your way out of this thing, we’d all be healthy as an ox. As Oxen? Who decided Oxen were the emblem of health anyway? Wait, who cares.
Despite the inch of snow disappearing by evening, remnants will remain. In the shady areas small patches it will last for a week. And in the yards where children play, sad looking snowmen will slowly shrink and deform until just two twigs-once-appendages lie in the wreckage pile. Perhaps with a rotting carrot somewhere in the mix. But for now it can simply be appreciated and enjoyed. One of my true great pleasures in life is experiencing the silence of snow, falling or freshly fallen. If you’ve ever stood in freshly fallen snow, or caught it still coming down, you know exactly the tenure of silence it conveys. It’s a sacredness proximal to watching the sun rise or set, or looking out into the oceans without a spec of land in site, or into the depths of canyons thousands of feet deep.
It offers to me the feeling of how much bigger than me the world is- how the earth inhabits a living autonomy, apart from the humans who occupy it. And yet, I have to believe we’re connected on some unseeable, unknowable field. I feel small in a good way—protected, overseen. A feeling of trust emerges because nature and all its phenomena far surpass me and my little life. It knows exactly what it’s doing. Which is reassuring personally, because I certainly do not.
(Here are some polaroids I took across the day. Polaroids: Because there’s just not enough damn photos out there.
Snow gives good reason to pause and reflect. Not to mention it makes for nice scenery when you’re sick and essentially useless. I would surmise too few of us really stop and take it all in as much as we ought to. Easy to get lost in the frustration of scraping down your car windshield or having to shovel the driveway. For me it’s the audible nature of it, both the particular sounds it makes and the muteness it creates. If you close your eyes, nearly everyone can hear the crackle and crunch of footsteps in the snow. But you can also hear the insulated silence, the voices and sounds muffled by the accumulation. As it turns out, there’s a scientific reason why snow leaves such a pervasive, distinct quiet: Each snowflake acts as its own tiny sponge, as does the amassed snow on the ground. In this capacity, the snow is actually absorbing sound, leaving a sanctified hush in the place of the typical, unbuffered world and its noise. Is nature neat or what?! I DO declare.
(Two Weeks Later)
The snow is long gone, the birds are chirping, and it’s in the upper 60’s. February is over! I was starting to doubt that might never happen and I may personally enter a ground Hogs Day situation. Anyway, this weather is a tease. We’ll get hit with a few more cold snaps before the warmth really settles in. Guess what? I’m still weak. ME/CFS is a resilient disease. Rain/snow/or shine: It can and will thrive through anything! Oh well, I had a fun and more energetic weekend, which is probably why I’m paying a physical price now. So it’s back to to-do lists undone, River ansy for her walk, and all the sounds of nature crystallized and clear, animating another day of rest.
I have learned to do this, and work constantly not to forget. I’ve gotten pretty good at doing very, very little. Can you imagine that being anything to be proud of? Ridiculous. And normally, no. But for the hand millions of people and I have been dealt, it’s a teeny, tiny victory. With patience, all of what we must do, all of nature, and all we wish to achieve will unfold as time and space allow. In the meantime, we have to continue to find and adapt to who we are, no matter what transpires on the outside of us all.
Health, Happiness, Unfolding
P.S. Listen to these two songs: They’re my faves right now.
FibroM.E.-Awesome 